I’m not sure why, but I have never seen happiness as a necessary outcome of my life. Indeed, for large portions of my life, I haven’t even seen my own happiness as desirable. I don’t know whether that is, in itself, good or bad but I do know that at many times I have lacked … Continue reading Is life about happiness?
On March 1st in The Economist there was an article titled 'Total eclipse of the arts: the quiet decline of music in British schools' which detailed the decrease in uptake for music at both GCSE and A-level. There have been many such articles in recent years and all have bemoaned the drop off in funding … Continue reading A response to The Economist
One of the hardest decisions I have made was to change careers. The hard part wasn’t working out what other option I might take; the hard part was no longer pursuing the career I had set myself. It had been on my mind off and on for a couple of years but I hadn’t ever … Continue reading Why is change hard?
Fail hard and fail often is written so much in self-help literature that it has become a cliché. It is also one of the most debunked self-improvement strategies that I have come across. Having read a LOT about failure and spent a great deal of time feeling failure myself, I think that the most valuable … Continue reading Why is failure good?
Two years ago, I had just about organised myself into a state in which I felt things could be OK. I was a few months into teacher training, having taken the momentous-feeling step of completely changing my career and the direction and purpose of my life. I was a few months away from the lowest … Continue reading Returning to old ground
There is a great deal written about exercise: how you should exercise, when you should exercise, what body parts you should exercise… The MOST IMPORTANT PART of exercising is simply deciding to do it and ACTUALLY DOING IT. Once you have made the decision, just do it – in whatever form you feel most comfortable and engaged with. Walk, run, swim, pogo stick, skip, play football… Whatever takes your fancy, just do it.
For me, and for many other people I know and have read about, exercise is enormously beneficial to my state of mind as well as my general health.
Mindfulness is one of the most valuable and transformative meditation techniques I have tried – and I’ve tried plenty! I am always sceptical of techniques and processes that make bold claims to change your life but in this case there is not only anecdotal evidence (myself included) but also scientific evidence.
1. Recognise that something needs fixing This is the hardest but the most important part of rebuilding yourself and your life. I spent a long time – I mean years – absolutely convinced that it was everyone else’s fault. Whatever went wrong, I never had any control over it. I became obsessively focused on events … Continue reading 5 Steps to Rebuilding
Self-deception is one of the most difficult hurdles to jump when it comes to rebuilding. Often, the signs that not everything is right are clear - it is just that you willfully ignore them! Here are five danger signs that all is not right with you.